4 Steps to Defining the Dream
Updated: Jan 31
What does YOUR dream look like?
A dream will remain a dream until you decide to do something about making it a reality. Oftentimes, people just need a little help figuring out how to get there.
Oprah Winfrey said, “The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but significance – and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning.”
What I know for certain is this…
People are capable of great things if only they would quit thinking they CAN’T.
I’ve seen it… that drive to succeed… that winning attitude, and the only way you are going to know if you can reach your own goals is to try. So… it’s up to you.
Let’s get down to defining the Dream.
What is your End Game?
Without a set goal in mind, chances are pretty good you will fritter away your time without thinking about your end game until it’s too late. So ask yourself this question. If you were to die tomorrow, would you have accomplished everything you wished to in life?
I have thought about this question a lot since my Dad died ten years ago. I had spent a lot of time with Dad helping him through 2 years of cancer treatments, and at the time, his goal was to beat cancer. My goal was to do everything I could to help him.
Dad and I spent a lot of time talking about whether or not he had accomplished everything he wanted to in life, just in case… and there were only a few things, he shared, that he wished he would have tried to do.
The first: he should have tried to go into business for himself. He was so very proud of my husband and I for having the courage to make the jump. Dad said, he often looked back and wondered if he could have made it, and it was something he regretted never finding out for himself.
The second: traveling out west just to see it. At the point he mentioned this goal, he was too sick to be away from his cancer doctor to take the trip, so he put it on his list of regrets instead, being happy that he and Mom had taken the time to travel and see as much as they did.
The third: learn how to play the banjo. I found a guy giving banjo lessons that was willing to come right to Dad’s house, but unfortunately, the chemo left Dad too weak to press down the strings. The man came for the rest of the lessons, but instead of teaching Dad how to play, he played song after song for him, and it was wonderful.
Author, J K Rowlings, said, “Anything’s possible if you’ve got enough nerve.”
Going into business took a LOT of nerve, and after that, a LOT of work… and it still does. Every. Single. Day.
If there was one thing you wish you could accomplish before dying, what would it be?
That is your dream.
To achieve YOUR Dream, you need to define exactly what it looks like. Think about why are you here.
Step 1: What is your Dream?
Do you want material things? A new car, a new house, a dog?
Maybe it’s a family? A spouse, a pack of kids, a dog?
Do you want to earn a lot of money? Not have to worry about having enough to pay your bills or put food on the table?
Maybe your dream is to be successful at your chosen profession? To be a successful entrepreneur? A top sales person? An author? An artist? Maybe the manager of a store? Or maybe you would like to be the best Dog Breeder in town?!
What is your dream?
Step 2: Explain WHY you want this.
Any of your goals are attainable so long as you have the desire to reach them, but you have to have a good reason for why you want it in the first place. It can’t be a totally lame reason like, “Yeah, that would be nice.”
It HAS to be a burning desire… One that keeps you up at night thinking of ideas about how to achieve it… One that you aren’t willing to give up on until you conquer it.
This is where writing out your reason helps solidify your goal. The more compelling the reason, the higher the chances you will succeed.
Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks said, “In life, you can blame a lot of people and you can wallow in self-pity, or you can pick yourself up and say, ‘listen, I have to be responsible for myself.’”
Step 3: Define your talents.
Basing your dream off your talents will help your goals be more attainable. Once again, you’re never going to be a goose… at least not in this lifetime, so you’ll want to use every advantage, every angle, every trump card possible to attain your goal.
You need to have a way of getting the ball rolling, so you start by using talents you already have. And don’t get all “negative” on me by saying you don’t have any talents. Everyone has something they are good at. If you don’t know what yours are, ask someone you trust what they think you are good at and start with that.
Jim Carey said, “Life opens up opportunities to you, and you either take them or you stay afraid of taking them.”
Step 4: Stay positive.
Remember, you can do this if you really want to, so keep telling yourself that you are worth it.
To keep a positive attitude and make your dream a reality, it has to be dependent on you in the end. It can’t be depending on if you win the lottery, for example. So think about all the things you can do right now to get things started, and how hard you would be willing to work for your dream to become a reality.
You might not reach your goals tomorrow, or next month, or even next year, but if you keep on trying, you’re going to find yourself a lot closer to the Dream than if you never tried at all.
Walt Disney said, “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.
Without accomplishments, or at least making the attempt to reach your goals, then what is life?
Will you have the courage to try?
Coming up next: Setting Goals.
See you soon!